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The 3 Types Of Lying Boyfriends
Odds are, you probably said it's a boyfriend who lies. When you hear lying boyfriend, the first thought that pops up is him with another woman. Well, believe it or not, your guy will lie to you for many reasons, not just if he's cheating on you. Guys may lie as a way to preserve their autonomy or create borders, to have some sort of power over their girl, to stay with a girl, and, yes, unfortunately, to see other women on the side. The boyfriend who lies in order to be free. This boyfriend comes out when his girlfriend or wife becomes to possessive. Where are you going? What took you so long? When are you coming back?...etc. This constant barrage of questioning makes a guy feel like he doesn't have a say in his life anymore, like he's no longer autonomous. So what does he do to get back at you? Lies. This is more of a passive aggressive response to just be done with his partner's interrogation and get to what he wants to do. It's also a way to maintain some semblance of power in the relationship. This reminds me of a proverb I once saw: The person who asks the most questions is the person who get the most lies. The boyfriend who lies in order to have power Sometimes, a guy might use a lie as a weapon or tool in a power play within the relationship. Now that women are able to advance in all fields at one time available only to men, the woman might be the one wearing the pants or the one with the more successful career or position. Recent studies suggest that while women tell lies to make others feel better, men tell lies in order to feel better about themselves, so why not against a mate who's a bit higher up in the food chain. By using deception, guys are withholding information, which is a source of power. That way, the boyfriend feels he has something you don't; truth. The lying boyfriend who just wants to stay with you Sometimes, that guy you're with wasn't completely honest about who he was when you hooked up. Here, the issue is expectation. He lies to live up to your expectation. Examples include "You liked Marley & Me, how funny, so do I!" or "I see your a Democrat. Did you know I voted for Barak Obama?" or "I have well paying job and I'm good at it." or the ever so popular "I agree." What your boyfriend wants is to either keep you or not lose you, so he makes himself out to be something he's not Catching the worst type of lying boyfriend -- Cheaters. How do you expose this one? If you suspect your boyfriend is cheating on you, take action by: • Observing if there's more emotional distance and less passion that before • Looking for changes in speech patterns and scheduling • If he drives a car, check his speedometer to see if he has more miles than he should • Creating an opportunity for him to cheat. Tell him that you're going out with the ladies a week or so in advance. Then when date comes, stakeout your house and see if took the opportunity to cheat. Now if you find out he wasn't cheating, then the issue is that you don't trust him and is something you could work on. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Knowing the type of lying boyfriend you're dealing with is just half the battle. Learning how to detect and trap him in his own B.S. is the next step and one can learn it RIGHT HERE and be in control in the relationship. |
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