Are you a player looking for love? Tired of hittin' and quittin' it? It sounds like you need to learn how to have a real relationship. The type of relationship that helps you and your partner grow as a couple and as individuals. But where do you start? After all, you were never taught to be a gentleman. This article is meant, not to change your life and undo all the damage that hip-hop music has done to your brain, but instead, I want to give you a little nudge in the right direction and let you figure out the rest. Follow these 6 tips for a better relationship with any girl.
Tip 1. Be a straight shooter. First thing first, do not try to impress a girl by telling her things that you think she wants to hear, but, aren't necessarily true. If you don't like 'chick flicks' then don't tell a girl you like 'chick flicks,' or you may spend many hours in a theater full of crying women wishing you were watching Die Hard 20. Let a girl know your likes and dislikes -- even if it means loosing common ground in some areas. She'll respect you more for being honest. And, when you do go and see a chick flick with her she'll appreciate it.
Tip 2. Trust her. Without trust, there is no relationship. If you've ever been burnt by a woman, then you may have some trust issues. Don't let one bad apple ruin the whole barrel for you. What I have noticed with people who have trust issues, is that they are the ones who can't be trusted. If you focus on being loyal to your partner, then, you'll trust her more when she is not around, too.
Tip 3. If you don't like her then break up. Do not settle into a relationship that you know is not going anywhere. There is nothing worse than letting months go by with someone you do not really care for. Sure you care, but not the way two lovers should. Even though it hurts to break up, and you know she might cry, it truly is the best thing for both of you.
Tip 4. Do the little things. In a recent study in my mind, it turns out that the little things, like sending flowers and writing notes, are actually big things. A sincere note left in your girlfriend's purse will win you just as many points as a fancy dinner! Can you believe that? Well you should, because it's true and less expensive. I'm sure you can appreciate that in this economy. And if you're going to send her flowers take a little extra time and write some careful words -- it will make a difference.
Tip 5. Respect one another. You and your girl are partners but you are also individuals. This will never change. Get use to the fact that you two are not always going to agree on things, and not always going to like the same things. Even though you might not understand her at times, give her the respect she deserves.
Tip 6. Friends and family. Her friends might love you. Her family might hate you. Your job, as the boyfriend, is to get along with both. This one can get real tough, specially if her family is crazy, but hey, I haven't met a family that doesn't have a little 'crazy' in them. If the family is too crazy, well, you might consider if the girl is worth it.
If you've made it to the end of this article and your eyes are popping out from their sockets, and it feels like your sitting in a sauna -- you may need some extra help like a 'playa' exorcism. Sorry, I stopped performing those. And for those saying, "I can do this," I invite you to give it a try. Remember to be honest, trusting, send flowers and notes, respect her and get along with her friends and family. And, if you make a mistake remember that nobody is perfect.
