Want Happiness? Try This!

"To know, but not to judge; to love, but not to keep; to be, but not be asleep is a way far better than most." -- Happy Musings
One of the kindest points of view to have is summed up in this saying. It is a motto worthy of living by. The first part -- to know -- is to understand or to be acquainted with a person. But then to know without judging, that's the trick. We are limited many times by our own experiences and tend to slap judgments on what we see. Our vision is limited. When we truly want to know, we must see clearly and that can only be done without judgment
Now the next part of this wonderful aphorism - to love, but not to keep - is also very useful in the realm of people and kindness. When the word "mine" is not in the equation, we can enjoy and love everyone. And everyone who is loved enjoys the benefits this kindness allows. This is particularly true with family members - children and spouses. When others are seen as "mine" a person can get very possessive. But when seen as "mine to love" there is greater freedom enjoyed by all.
The last part of the verse -- to be, but not be asleep - takes into account the idea of being aware, but not being passive. We're here to act, to help out, to make things better, to participate. We're not here to find a comfort zone and sit in it.
These three ideas provide a description of a particular way of life - one that gives a sense of purpose, a sense of freedom and one that has kindness at its core.
"Life is wonderful!"
Copyright 2008 Sally Huss

By: Sally Huss

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Sally Huss' Happy Musings are syndicated by King Features for newspapers. She makes them available FREE to her members, along with previews of her downloadable self-help books (10 Great Thoughts on Love and 10 Great Thoughts on Friendship) through her website. You are allowed to use this article as long as you include the resource box above intact.