Parents are not always to blame. Sometimes people are just born with a sensitive personality and even the hint of disapproval can trigger an avoidance response. Either way, you can create a new parent to help condition you to react more constructively, not only ending your blushing, but your social unease altogether.
Parenting yourself is exactly what it sounds like. Nurturing yourself with love, devotion, patience, and faith. Here a few guidelines.
Beliefs Of Nurturing Parents
1.Kids are a special gift entrusted to them to lovingly and positively encourage them and provide with what they need to fulfill their destiny
2.Critical remarks, insults, violence, yelling and other attempts at creating shame are not parenting, they are abuse
3.Talking, listening, and learning together are good ways of relating love and mutual respect
4.Having fun everyday is a must
Picture someone who displays these attributes. Or maybe pick one person is especially good at making you feel at peace and having fun, and another who really mentors with an encouraging, positive attitude. Recall their words and actions to be sure they will make a good virtual teacher.
Now choose one instance where blushing was a real problem for you. Go through the whole negative diatribe you laid on yourself about being clumsy, or stupid, or bad. What would your new parent have to say about that. Really imagine it, hear her or his voice. Say those words to yourself, quietly in your mind. Would she say something along the lines of “Never talk like that about yourself or anyone else.” And then smile and give you a big hug. Nurturing parents know blushing is a sign of needing a little confidence building, not deconstruction. Good parenting skills tend toward gentle shifts toward better directed energy.
Remember the Beliefs of Nurturing Parents list. Read over it everyday. Remember you have a special purpose on this planet, and right now we need all the bright futures we can get. Be patient with yourself as you grow, take the time to write down your feelings in a special notebook. Talk over your worries and fears with a trustworthy adult who has always treated others with care and respect. Practice statements in your mind that affirm the value of all people.
Here are some quick affirmations to get you started
1.Everyone makes mistakes sometimes.
2.People are more important than things.
3.Self respect is the greatest weapon.
4.Friends don’t encourage negative feelings, acts, or thoughts.
5.Learning about other cultures and philosophies can help us better understand ourselves and others.
6.Daydreaming leads to really great ideas.
7.Respect for others starts with respecting yourself and your belongings.
Steph Bryans;
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