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What Single Men Wish Women Knew
Modern media would like us to believe that men and women are the same. No, men and women are not the same. The obvious difference is physical, but what about emotional? Men and women receive and process information differently, which allows us to be unique in our own way. It is a mechanized cycle given to us by nature. Rather than try to spread sameness, why not look to understand one another? Why are there so many lies and deceit, when the majority of our problems can be solved through communication and a little understanding? You see women, men, although simplistic by nature, are not AS SIMPLE as you would like to believe. The good ol' belief that in order to keep us around you must, "feed us and give us sex," is only one ingredient of the man pie. The problem is that many of us suck as communicators, and so we don't express the other ingredient. You know the dreaded emotional ingredient. We simply internalize the problem and look for a solution to just make it work. That's what our brains are programmed to do; figure things out and just make them work. It's nothing personal, simply part of our natural makeup. That is something that you must know. So when we can't figure out why you don't understand us, we give up. Plain and simple. That's usually when the relationship ends, and hopefully not in a way that breaks hearts. There are millions upon millions of single women! Some by choice, but most will tell you that the reason they are single is because there aren't any "good men" out there. Do you really believe that, or are you just using it to reassure yourself? The fact is; there ARE good men out there, and plenty of them! The problem could very well be with you, and you must take ownership of that. Now don't get me wrong, if you are applying the principles from this book and the guy is still acting like a jerk, you got yourself... well, a jerk. Those exist too. If you stumble upon one, then do yourself a favor and kick him to the curb. However in order to know the difference between the two, you must know a few important things about us. Now I can't blame you for not knowing us. Growing up, I was never told how to understand women. I was always told how to "get women." You on the other hand were never told how to understand men, only how to treat a man. Sadly in some cultures, "treating a man" was and still is a codeword for; submitting to him. What if we could alter that dynamic by taking our time to understand one another? As I've explained earlier, we are different. When you wish to get better at a subject you know absolutely nothing about, do you not carefully study it? Well why not apply the same principle when it comes to understanding a man? Why not apply the same principle when it comes to keeping a relationship? Seems simple enough, huh? Well the truth is; it IS simple. Just like you, men have certain emotional needs. In order to know these needs, you must first study what they are and what triggers them. Once you understand them, you will be able to communicate with us in ways that we understand. Unfortunately, we don't have an emotional decoder, so when you are on an emotional rampage, the only thing we can do is what we usually do - look at you with a blank stare. Yeah you know that look, the one that tends to push you over the edge. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Dynamics of Influence is a blog about personal development and leadership which speaks on issues that will better the quality of your social and professional life. For daily updated articles and videos, check out www.dynamicsofinfluence.com |
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