What Your Parents Have To Do With Your Life Purpose

The central theme, the core issue your life revolves around, can be discovered using the following exercise concerning your parents or other people that were involved in your education.

There is no such thing as coincidence. It’s not coincidental that you were raised by this particular father and mother. Whether you like it or not, those two people were exactly what you needed to build the fundament of your life’s mission. You can “inherit” and further improve upon their positive qualities. The negative qualities need to be transformed, and those things that were lacking will need to be developed by yourself.

Your parents too were evolving throughout their lives and at some point reach their “ceiling.” It is your turn now – as their child – to continue this evolution from the point where they stopped. You can construct the next floor of the house that they started building.

You can compare it with patchwork. Your parents did a big part of the job, whether you think it is beautiful or not. At some point they stopped weaving and now it is your turn to pick up the needle and thread.

You do have a choice: do you simply keep weaving the same patterns, using the same color palette? In this case, be aware that the results will also be the same. Is this what you wish?

If not, then choose a different set of colors and make a different pattern. You can use some of their basic materials, use some of their colors, or change everything. In any case, adding your personal touch will make the end result richer, rather than just imitating without a new contribution.

The following exercise shows you how even negative influences from your parents have their proper meaning for you and prepare you for your mission.

The pain and suffering from your childhood have made you “sensitive” for certain issues. A child bereft of attention and love, who has been able to transform this lack, is himself very capable to see signs of neglect in other people. What used to be pain has now turned to inner strength, and more than anyone else he is able to help other who are going through or have gone through this.

It’s a well-known fact that people who have overcome their addiction are best suited to guide those who are still addicted. They are familiar with the circumstances, the misery, and the struggle. “They have been there.” They know that it’s possible to get out, and how to get out. They are living proof.

In the same way, pain you experienced during childhood has made you sensitive and alert for certain issues.Your mission on earth is also connected to scars from your childhood. Some people don’t find their mission until after a great ordeal. What used to look like a difficult or weak spot can one day become the driving force of your existence, and push you to help others who have the same problem.

To find out what your personal issue in life is, make a list of the positive and negative qualities of both your parents, and try to find a theme in it. To find out which one it is, look at what quality was not in balance in your childhood.

Maybe the central theme is all about self-confidence? Or is it about showing affection? Is it about learning how to communicate? Or maybe about clearly stating your boundaries?

It is not uncommon for your father or your mother to have exaggerated a certain quality (e.g. being too strict, setting too many rules) while the other parent showed the opposite behavior (not respecting boundaries, crossing boundaries, lack of discipline). It is now your turn to find the balance between these polarities. If your parents were like this then “setting boundaries” will probably be a central theme for you.

A different example: your father may have been very introvert, shielding himself from other people, unable to talk about his feelings. While your mother on the other hand talks about what’s on her mind all the time and to everyone, is oversensitive and dazzles you with her emotional landscape. In this case your theme may be about finding a balance between too much and too little emotionality.

You see how your central theme is in direct relation with your parents. It is no coincidence that these connections exist. The purpose of these connections is to “train” you in this particular matter so that you can help other people once you have overcome this issue for yourself.

Doing this exercise helps you to better understand your parents and your childhood. It helps you to understand how the suffering in your childhood was preparing your for your mission. Somehow these experiences were “needed” to gear you up for your life’s assignment.

This exercise helps you to look back at your personal history from a distance, and to let it go. You may be required to forgive a few people (including yourself) to eventually be able to pursue the path of your choice.

By: Ineke Van Lint

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Written by Ineke Van Lint. At her website www.theenthusiasm.com you find everything you need about What is the Purpose of your Life and about How to Free your Potential and Create Success. Grab your free e-course and the Free Vitamins for your Soul. Start living from your Soul's perspective. Start being You, a brilliant Diamond.