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Why Do You Need To Understand Your Anger Types?
Well, it’s the same for anger. To make things simple, let us just try to categorize anger into 3 main categories: • Rage • Resentment • Indignation Rage Rage is a violent, explosive anger of furious intensity. In fact, learning how to manage such type of anger should be your top priority when you are developing your anger management skills. Often, falling into rage will cause us to say or do things that are destructive in nature. They range from bringing physical injuries to other people or to others’ self esteem, self confidence etc. Not to mention, you’ll have a higher tendency to crush any valuable relationships and trust which you have took time and energy to build over the years. Rage breaks hearts. And broken hearts take a long time to heal, if they ever heal at all. Therefore, learning to control one’s temper and lowering the intensity of one’s anger is really one very important skill you need to acquire. At least it will save you the miseries of broken relationships and failing trust. Resentment Resentment is to feel anger against someone or something and yet unwillingly to express them. This may another type of anger which you’ll want to look into. Personally, I am also trying to become more aware of such anger which tends to invade into my life. Unlike what the majority thinks, resentment is as destructive as rage. While rage is an outwards expression of anger, resentment is an inwards type of expression. Both types of anger brings harm and illness to their host, especially resentment. And if you were thinking that at least resentment doesn’t affect your relationships with others, think again. Resentment in fact is just a prelude to rage. To be chronically angry over someone or something is like trying to accumulate gunpowder in you. As you accumulate more and more gunpowder in yourself, the bigger the explosion is expected from you. And more than often, when you “explode”, the people who suffer are seldom the people or events that you’re truly resenting about. In other words, you’re directing your anger totally in the wrong direction on wrong people or wrong things. End results? You’re just hurting innocent parties, usually the people close to you. Are you guilty of such actions? I sure am. Indignation Indignation is what we often refer as righteous anger. Usually, people with this type of anger can easily express their displeasure, disappointment or dislike to the concern parties. Also, it’ll usually result in more positive end results as the person is less likely to resort to violence to solve the problem. Of course, I am not trying to say which types of anger are good and which are bad. All exist for a reason. They are there to serve us. However, that is only possible if we learn how to manage them rather than they manage us. Even the most positive emotion in the world without good management can result in dire situations. Therefore the question is not how to keep those “negative” emotions at bay. Rather it is how you choose to manage them to suit your own need. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com =-==-==-==-==-==-==-==-==-==-==-== |
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