Why Playing The "blame Game" Is So Counter Productive
In homes all over the United States, couples are playing a dangerous game. It's a game that erodes the marriage and leads to resentment, bitterness, and built-up anger. It's known as the blame game. Although most married couples have played it at one time, most don't realize how counter productive it is for a happy marriage. During this tough economic time, however, it's more popular than ever.
The Blame Game in Your Marriage
Here's a common scenario. The couple is paying the bills for the month but because of the recession the money coming in seems to be covering less and less. Then one bill pops up - maybe a credit card bill or a phone bill - that is higher than normal. The blame game begins. The husband blames the wife for running up the bill. The wife blames the husband for not looking for a better paying job. Pretty soon the blame game escalates and the bill that triggered the entire mess is forgotten.
After the fight ends, both people feel bad about fighting over something as trivial as a bill. They feel guilty about the fight but also a bit angry because the other person "always puts the blame on them" for whatever goes wrong in the relationship. Over time, this resentment builds up and becomes almost as tangible as a real wall blocking intimacy, communication, and compassion in the marriage.
Save Your Marriage = End the Blame Game
The worst part about the blame game is that it causes long lasting damage without providing any positive benefits. When the fighting ends, no solution has been reached. The bill isn't any closer to being paid. As a result, the same fight is likely to be repeated over and over again.
While this game may have been part of your marriage for a long time, you can still save your marriage by ending the cycle. Learning how to do that isn't easy. You've probably watched every couple in your life poison their marriage playing this game. A new book called How to Have a Good Marriage in a Bad Economy can help have a happy marriage.
With the help of this book, you'll find an alternative to the blame game that will work.
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