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3 Little Known Secrets to Winning the Guilt War

Mom has obsessive/compulsive behavior. Does this matter? Picture an overweight mother named Sally in a retirement home. She’s sneak eating her favorite meal of whip cream smothered over chocolate ice cream. Her guilt ridden diet habits from childhood are still wreaking havoc on her life decades later. Sally’s mother had obsessive/compulsive behavior. How could this be termed abusive?

1. What of the adult child in the grip of guilt that eats away at her core? She’s in the trash finding the crumbed cookies she just bought and threw away hoping she could stop eating them. She can’t stop.
2. What of the adult daughter who is now a mother of two daughters six and eight years old? She tells them both how bad ice cream and refined sugar is for them. Never once going to McDonalds, she does everything even to making homemade birthday cakes with fruit as sweetening. This mother is repeating the cycle of obsessive/restrictive behaviors towards sugar laden and fattening foods down to the last crumb of a cookie.

What might happen when her daughters visit a friend’s house where there are cookies and candy? Or what do you think happens when her daughters reach their teens with money in their pockets and they’re out with peers? One of two things might happen to these daughters.

1. They may still restrict their food like their mother and develop extreme weight loss.
2. They may overeat and become out of control with their food intake and add excessive body fat with an eating disorder.

Either choice can be devastating to a daughter’s mind/body/and spirit. Results of a survey shows that women want to know more about the causes of eating disorders. Yet guilt can paralyze their understanding because often times they turn that guilt in on themselves. What’s unique about this approach is objective viewing on the effects that a mother’s beliefs about food can have on her children and the generations to come. Blaming and further guilt are the real enemies here.

Review the following list of behaviors to determine where you might be. Then look at where you want to be and the steps to get there.
See where you might be on the Obsessive/Compulsive Behavior List?

1. Occasional Binges
2. Constant Snacking
3. Increase in Food Quantity
4. Onset of scattered Thinking
5. Increasing Dependence on Food as Entertainment
6. Sneak Eating
7. Feelings of Guilt
8. Unable to Discuss
Problems
9. Memory Lapse Increase
10. Using Excuses to Cover Eating Excesses
11. Decrease in Ability to Diet for any Length of Time
12. Persistent Remorse
13. Grandiose & Aggressive Behavior
14. Loss of Other Interests
15. Efforts to Control Fail Repeatedly
Critical Phase

16. Work & Money Problems
17. Geographical Escapes Attempted
18. Round the Clock Eating
19. Isolation Begins
20. Physical Deterioration
21. Resentments, Compound Loss of Ordinary Willpower
22. Sexuality Issues Arise
23. Decrease in Ability to Satisfy “Hunger”
24. Non-Personhood Feelings Begin
25. Onset of Lengthy Bingeing
26. Garbage Eating
27. Impaired Thinking
Chronic Phase

28. Unable to Initiate Action
29. Indefinable Fears
30. Vague Spiritual Fears & Questions
31. Obsession With Food
32. Sexual Dysfunction Begins
33. All Dieting Ideas are Exhausted
Obsessive/Compulsive Behaviors Continues in Vicious Circles Here

34. Complete Defeat Admitted
35. Honest Desire for Help
36. Learns Food Addiction is a Treatable Illness
37. Told How Addiction Can be Arrested
Intervention Phase

38. Volume Eating Stops
39. Meets Former Food Addicts Who are Normal and Happy
40. Isolation Ends
41. Right Thinking Begins as Sugar and Flour AbstinenceTakes Hold
42. Spiritual Needs Questioned
43. Physical Overhaul By Doctor
44. Personal Appearance Changes
45. Start Group Therapy
46. Appreciation of Possibilities of New Way of Life
47. Diminishing Fears & Anxieties
48. Return to Self Acceptance
49. Food Becomes Nourishment for the Body
50. Desire to Run Away Ceases
Restoration Phase

51. Realistic Thinking
52. Adjustment to Family Needs
53. Natural Rest & Sleep
54. New Personal Interests Develop
55. Family & Friends See Efforts
56. Rebirth of Idealism
57. New Circle of Non-Bingeing Friends
58. Application of Real Values
59. Personal Fact-Finding Begins
60. Program of Recovery is Obvious in Work Place
61. Increased Emotional Control
62. Return of Healthy Sexuality
63. Onset of New Hope
64. Rationalizations End
65. Contentment in Abstinence
66. Group Therapy and Mutual Help Continue
67. Increasing Tolerance of Others
68. Self-Actuating Future & New Means of Life Begin

You can win the war against guilt of obsessive/compulsive behaviors that lead to eating disorders. Focusing on the body fat or weight loss is the problem. There is an enormous difference between having no appetite for whip cream over chocolate ice cream- and not eating it – and not eating it because it makes me fat.

By: Kathleen Fuller, Ph.D.

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