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Your Subconscious Mind: Is It Keeping You Single?
The power of your subconscious mind is huge. It never sleeps and never rests – it has controlled all the functions of your body from the moment you took your first breath. Through processes that even scientists can’t explain, it creates bone and tissue from the food you eat and the miracle of new life in a woman’s womb. It’s the storehouse of all your memories – even the forgotten ones; a repository of every experience you’ve ever had. It’s referred to as the subconscious because you are not actively aware of its effect on you, and yet all your choices and decisions are influenced by it. For example: You may be unaware of how a phrase you heard when you were 5 years old, such as “She’s a ’Plain Jane’” has contributed to your inability to feel confidence as a woman – even decades later. One of my clients was shocked to find out that when she just a baby, she had absorbed the message that she “should have been a boy.” This revelation allowed her the liberating experience of finally being able to own her femininity and relish in her womanly attributes. The adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never harm me” isn’t true when you’re a child. What is true, is that when you allow a subconscious thought to become conscious – when you remember or recognize it – it no longer has power over you, it no longer has a strong influence in your life. If you are having a hard time getting married, no matter how many times you tell yourself consciously you want to marry, there is most likely a part of your mind that is afraid and wants just the opposite. You can literally be at cross-purposes with yourself. It’s the battle between what your conscious mind thinks it wants and what your subconscious mind feels about it. This conflict will create a real psychological tug-of-war that needs to be resolved. The subconscious creates your “life script” according to its beliefs, good or bad, true or false. It does what it thinks is in your best interest; it has a belief system that protects you as if your very survival depended on it. For example, if it has accepted the belief from early childhood that you are not worthy of being loved, it will do everything it can to sabotage any new love interest that comes your way. If you find yourself challenged around relationships, it is important for you to dig below the surface and make those subconscious beliefs known to your conscious mind. Your two minds need to work toward the same goal. It can take considerable effort to get the subconscious mind working for you rather than against you. You will need to do some serious introspection and find the ideas and associations the subconscious mind has absorbed that have kept you single. There are many ways to get in touch with your subconscious thoughts. The most commonly known methods are through journaling or hypnosis. Hypnotherapy can be incredibly helpful because you have someone to guide you through the process and ask your subconscious all the right questions You have a wealth of information within you that has helped shape and define how you behave and feel. Tendencies toward self-deprecation, fearfulness, worry or even depression, can be lessened – and even disappear – when their source is found and revealed to the conscious mind. Once you come to know what has contributed to keeping you single, you can then enjoy both your minds working together to create the marriage you seek. Article Directory: http://www.articledashboard.com Virginia Feingold Clark is a Relationship Coach & Hypnotherapist in Phoenix, AZ. She recently authored, It's Never Too Late to Marry. Learn more about Virginia at www.ItsNeverTooLateToMarry.com or visit her Facebook Page, www.Facebook.com/ItsNeverTooLateToMarry. |
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